We’ve all been there, right? One of your family members, or maybe an old acquaintance, lets say ‘Susan’ has started a new journey in their life and they are posting about it all over social media. They might message you and want you to join them, and you either ignore them or give some vague response on why you just ‘can’t’ at the moment. Then, a few weeks later, maybe even a couple months, a message hits your inbox again. It’s from Susan, your mind races on what excuse you should give this time, or should you just ignore it. Maybe, if you don’t open the message completely they will never know you seen it. Yeah, that sounds better, you ghost them. Then, you go back to your social media sites and ‘unfollow,’ so you don’t get one of those dreaded messages again.
Guess what, that was ME! I was the ghoster, or the one that unfollowed, but guess what it didn’t hurt Susan, she just poured her time and energy into someone that acknowledged her, nope, it hurt me! I was the one that was missing out on all the great oppurtunities I could have had. I sat at home, on my ass watching tv wondering how on earth I was going to loose the baby weight, but I didn’t want to actually do anything about it. I ghosted anyone that made me feel bad about that, no they didn’t actually make me feel bad, I made myself feel bad because I couldn’t see it at the time, but I was making up excuses after excuses on why it would never work out for me, why I just didn’t have the time. Trying to raise three kids under three is a workout in itself, I told myself I didn’t need to do anything about it! Boy was I wrong! Truth is, I can’t do this by myself! Ive tried for a long time to hold myself accountable and exercise and use portion control, and it just is not feasible for me! I need the accountability from other people. I need the feeling of waking up and having to workout or eat right because you don’t want to let others down, ultimately you don’t want to let yourself down.
The wonderful thing about Susan though, she didn’t give up on me! When I was ready to start my own journey, Susan was right there with me ready to help me along the way. Now that I have started, I am able to realize some of my past mistakes. If I wouldn’t have ghosted Susan the first time she reached out, think about where I could be now! I feel better than ever, and I could have felt this way years ago! My kids are seeing a new side to mommy! They are seeing a side of mommy that makes me more than just a mommy! I get to help other people on their life path, as I’m walking down mine! My kids watch me be supportive and mentoring to others, as I want them to be when they grow up! I also, want to show my kids they need to take care of themselves when they are older, take time for yourself, for your mental state, for your physical state!
Truthfully we are all in this world together, and if you need someone to help you take care of yourself, hold you accountable with your nutrition and wellness, I am right here beside you! I will be Susan! I will never give up on you, even if you ghost me or give me some excuse on why you can’t do this right now. Eventually you will realize that the excuses you are making are only hurting yourself! Trust me, been there, done that, but I will still be here waiting for you like Susan waited for me. Take the leap, join me on my journey, I don’t want you to be like me and look back on what could have been. Be in the present, change your nutrition and wellness now, and better your future!
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-xo one determined mama
